By Trevor Johnson
Sometimes we're our own worst enemies and we come up with all sorts of devious ways of self sabotaging that even Wile E Coyote would envy. So if you're forever indulging in self sabotage, what can you do to get out of the habit?
Stop procrastinating
Or at least reduce it.
Procrastination is probably the biggest form of self sabotage that we can indulge in.
After all, if you don't start something then it's darn near impossible to complete it.
If you catch yourself procrastinating, recognize it for the act of self sabotaging that it is and devise your own system to stop yourself putting things off. Personally, I find one of the easiest ways is to start doing whatever it is I'd try to put off, before I give myself the chance to procrastinate on it.
Stop putting yourself down
This is another nasty way to self sabotage yourself.
If you're forever putting yourself down and belittling yourself, your subconscious will begin to believe what you're telling other people and will start to modify the way you act to bring your real life into line with you idea of yourself.
Next time you catch yourself putting yourself down, put a stop to it. Mid sentence if need be. Shrug off whatever you've started to say or turn the comment round so that it's positive.
The same goes for anyone who puts you down on a regular basis. Work on ways to reduce your contact with them or, if that's not possible, tell them straight that they're undermining you (or get a friend to act as a mediator on your behalf)/.
Interrupt the patterns you run
There's a good chance that at least some of your self sabotaging follows a pattern.
Take some time out to analyze what the triggers are that cause you to sabotage yourself - there are probably a handful that are the regular offenders - and then devise a plan to interrupt them as they take shape.
This could be as simple as telling yourself to snap out of it. Or distracting yourself or changing "direction" slightly.
Feel free to experiment until you find a couple of ways that work best for you. Then implement them as often as possible when you find yourself trying to sabotage whatever it is you're doing.
Stop beating yourself up
This is often a big problem for people.
They start off by sabotaging themselves and then they chastise themselves after the event for following through with the sabotage.
The past is in the past. Get over it. Whatever you did can't be changed so don't run through a post-mortem every time you do something that has the effect of sabotaging yourself.
Go a bit easier on yourself and spend the time that you would have spent going ape at yourself more constructively.
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Law of Attraction - The Law of Attraction Must Include the Law of Action
By Charles Prosper
In essence, the Law of Attraction states that whatever you habitually focus on you tend to attract automatically into you life. This law is very appealing to most people because of its apparent promise of effortless manifestation of the things that we want in our lives. Hey, if we really want something, that means we are focusing on it, and since we are focusing on it, therefore it is being attracted into our lives. Right? Well, there is a little more to it than that. If it were as easy as that then everyone who has ever really wanted something would always walk away with their arms loaded down with all of the stuff they could imagine.
How We Stop the Law of Attraction from Working
There are also many things that can and do get in the way of the Law of Attraction. One of those things is doubt and worry; this is the killer for most people. Another thing that stops the Law of Attraction is the refusal to take immediate and positive action to make that which you say you want to come about. You see, the minute that you focus your energy on something, by the laws of Higher Power, that which you have begun to think about begins to move toward you with the intention of becoming reality.
The Law of Attraction is Really the Law of Opportunity
That which you attract is a movement toward you. That which you attract appears in the form of opportunity. The problem is also that many of us do not recognize the first of the manifestation of our desire because we misread the perfect opportunity when it appears, so that in hindsight we say, "I shouldn't have doubted myself and hesitated. I should have taken the risk and should have gone for it." How often do we miss our cues!
The Law of Attraction Can Only Work through the Law of Immediate Action
If fruit falls to the ground after we have prayed for food, we still have to bend over and pick it up to eat it. If the woman of our dreams is sitting next to us on a two-hour plane flight, we still have to begin a conversation and talk to her. If we get a great money-making idea to change our life situation for the better, we still have to take the leap of faith and act on it. The Law of Attraction is not the law of imposition, that is, we are never forced to realized what we have attracted.
The 2 Secrets to Get the Law of Attraction to Always Work for You
It's very simple. I think that we ironically attract opportunities for that which we pray night and day. The problem is do we see the opportunity? And do we act upon it? Put very plainly, the secret of Attraction lies in its last six letters.
How We Stop the Law of Attraction from Working
There are also many things that can and do get in the way of the Law of Attraction. One of those things is doubt and worry; this is the killer for most people. Another thing that stops the Law of Attraction is the refusal to take immediate and positive action to make that which you say you want to come about. You see, the minute that you focus your energy on something, by the laws of Higher Power, that which you have begun to think about begins to move toward you with the intention of becoming reality.
The Law of Attraction is Really the Law of Opportunity
That which you attract is a movement toward you. That which you attract appears in the form of opportunity. The problem is also that many of us do not recognize the first of the manifestation of our desire because we misread the perfect opportunity when it appears, so that in hindsight we say, "I shouldn't have doubted myself and hesitated. I should have taken the risk and should have gone for it." How often do we miss our cues!
The Law of Attraction Can Only Work through the Law of Immediate Action
If fruit falls to the ground after we have prayed for food, we still have to bend over and pick it up to eat it. If the woman of our dreams is sitting next to us on a two-hour plane flight, we still have to begin a conversation and talk to her. If we get a great money-making idea to change our life situation for the better, we still have to take the leap of faith and act on it. The Law of Attraction is not the law of imposition, that is, we are never forced to realized what we have attracted.
The 2 Secrets to Get the Law of Attraction to Always Work for You
It's very simple. I think that we ironically attract opportunities for that which we pray night and day. The problem is do we see the opportunity? And do we act upon it? Put very plainly, the secret of Attraction lies in its last six letters.
The 5th Universal Law: That of Intention or Attraction
By Nancy Stremmel
This is the most simple of the laws, once one has mastered the previous laws. When you have accepted that you are one with Source/Divinity/Creator, and you are engaged in moving energy by giving, and you are actively making karmic choices, you are ready to become an integral being.
The integral being practices acceptance of the moment, responsibility, and defenselessness. This is necessary before you can permanently enter the 4th dimension. The higher spiritual beings are just waiting for you to be ready. They will not let a person who is prone to explosive anger or blaming, fear or regret become a master manifestor because that person would be more likely to cause hurt as to be expansive, thus increasing peace and abundance.
This 5th law gives you the power to manifest love and beauty, peace and abundance, or if you are in opposition to Source, you can also manifest illness and war, distress and destruction. This is why those individuals who are oppositional will be kept largely in the lower frequency of the third dimension. But, as we see in the world today, they do sometimes rise to a level capable of manifesting and cause trouble for us all.
Your Choice is always between Fear and Love:
This law only gives one difficulty when it is taken out of context of the other laws. "Desire is part of your karmic software" says Deepak Chopra. "Intent is what puts into process that which we desire." Make your list based on your heart's atonement to the flow and surrender that list to the womb of creation. Believe, and it is done.
Every decision is between fear and love. Are you going to make that bill payment today? Love will encourage you to do it and fear will encourage you to wait. Are you going to make that phone call to your sister/brother/cousin? Love will encourage you to do it and fear will make you hesitate.
Do you love your work enough to turn off the TV and put in some extra time mastering your craft? Do you love you family enough to do the extra work around your home without complaining? Do you love your partner and your self enough to always tell the truth and to always honor your contracts? Do you love humanity enough to trust that people are basically good and doing the best they can in any given situation?
When you are able to let go of all fear, and embrace love in all circumstances, you will be able to manifest with such speed and accuracy that your manifesting might also be called a miracle. Until that time, you will be practicing your manifesting mastery as a doctor or a lawyer practices their profession.
The integral being practices acceptance of the moment, responsibility, and defenselessness. This is necessary before you can permanently enter the 4th dimension. The higher spiritual beings are just waiting for you to be ready. They will not let a person who is prone to explosive anger or blaming, fear or regret become a master manifestor because that person would be more likely to cause hurt as to be expansive, thus increasing peace and abundance.
This 5th law gives you the power to manifest love and beauty, peace and abundance, or if you are in opposition to Source, you can also manifest illness and war, distress and destruction. This is why those individuals who are oppositional will be kept largely in the lower frequency of the third dimension. But, as we see in the world today, they do sometimes rise to a level capable of manifesting and cause trouble for us all.
Your Choice is always between Fear and Love:
This law only gives one difficulty when it is taken out of context of the other laws. "Desire is part of your karmic software" says Deepak Chopra. "Intent is what puts into process that which we desire." Make your list based on your heart's atonement to the flow and surrender that list to the womb of creation. Believe, and it is done.
Every decision is between fear and love. Are you going to make that bill payment today? Love will encourage you to do it and fear will encourage you to wait. Are you going to make that phone call to your sister/brother/cousin? Love will encourage you to do it and fear will make you hesitate.
Do you love your work enough to turn off the TV and put in some extra time mastering your craft? Do you love you family enough to do the extra work around your home without complaining? Do you love your partner and your self enough to always tell the truth and to always honor your contracts? Do you love humanity enough to trust that people are basically good and doing the best they can in any given situation?
When you are able to let go of all fear, and embrace love in all circumstances, you will be able to manifest with such speed and accuracy that your manifesting might also be called a miracle. Until that time, you will be practicing your manifesting mastery as a doctor or a lawyer practices their profession.
Selasa, 17 Mei 2011
Replacing Your Negative Beliefs
By Corwin Smith
High school motivational speakers often talk about success, but rarely mention that we need to change our beliefs in order to achieve great success. Our beliefs about ourselves are what determine the types of outcomes we have in life. Don't have what you really want in life? It's because your beliefs haven't allowed you to get there. Some beliefs are going to empower you, some are going to be negative, and some will not really have any effect either way.
First, we need to identify what are the more empowering beliefs that you have in your life. What are some of those beliefs that you have that really empower you to make a positive impact? It could be
beliefs such as, "I'm worthy," "I'm funny," "I deserve to have good things," "I'm smart." There are a lot of them. What are some of those in your life?
Now it's time to identify our negative beliefs. What are some of the negative beliefs that you have? What are some of the things that are holding you back? For example, "I'm not smart," "I'm fat. That's just the way I am," "I'm shy," "I don't like to meet new people," "I can't become wealthy," "I can't find a job that I love." These are all common negative and self-limiting beliefs that will hold a person back from having what he really wants.
What are some of those beliefs that you have? Come up with at least a list of three beliefs that are holding you back.
First, it's important to celebrate our positive beliefs and appreciate that they are there. We want to make those more front and center.
On the other hand, we need to do something about our negative beliefs. We can't however just remove the negative beliefs because you can't remove a belief. You have to replace it. You have to replace a negative belief with something that is more empowering.
For example, if your belief is that, "I'm shy," you can't just remove that and say, "Okay, now I'm extroverted." That's probably unrealistic. Your brain is going to tell you, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, we don't know each other."
Rather than saying, "I'm shy," you could say, "Right now, I am nervous around new people but that is something that I can change." Being shy is not a character trait. It is just a behavior, something that is basically a product of being nervous around meeting a new person.
Replacing the belief that, "I am shy," with, "I get nervous around people, but it's something that I can work on and develop," is a much more empowering belief and it's not something that your brain is going to come back to you and say, "Whoa, whoa, whoa."
Going through this process with all of your negative beliefs will take some effort and practice. After writing out your new beliefs put them on a 3x5 card and carry them around with you. Read them often. It takes time, but replacing your negative beliefs will allow you to finally create the life you actually want. Who knows, maybe someday you will join the ranks of high school motivational speakers and share your message with young people!
First, we need to identify what are the more empowering beliefs that you have in your life. What are some of those beliefs that you have that really empower you to make a positive impact? It could be
beliefs such as, "I'm worthy," "I'm funny," "I deserve to have good things," "I'm smart." There are a lot of them. What are some of those in your life?
Now it's time to identify our negative beliefs. What are some of the negative beliefs that you have? What are some of the things that are holding you back? For example, "I'm not smart," "I'm fat. That's just the way I am," "I'm shy," "I don't like to meet new people," "I can't become wealthy," "I can't find a job that I love." These are all common negative and self-limiting beliefs that will hold a person back from having what he really wants.
What are some of those beliefs that you have? Come up with at least a list of three beliefs that are holding you back.
First, it's important to celebrate our positive beliefs and appreciate that they are there. We want to make those more front and center.
On the other hand, we need to do something about our negative beliefs. We can't however just remove the negative beliefs because you can't remove a belief. You have to replace it. You have to replace a negative belief with something that is more empowering.
For example, if your belief is that, "I'm shy," you can't just remove that and say, "Okay, now I'm extroverted." That's probably unrealistic. Your brain is going to tell you, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, we don't know each other."
Rather than saying, "I'm shy," you could say, "Right now, I am nervous around new people but that is something that I can change." Being shy is not a character trait. It is just a behavior, something that is basically a product of being nervous around meeting a new person.
Replacing the belief that, "I am shy," with, "I get nervous around people, but it's something that I can work on and develop," is a much more empowering belief and it's not something that your brain is going to come back to you and say, "Whoa, whoa, whoa."
Going through this process with all of your negative beliefs will take some effort and practice. After writing out your new beliefs put them on a 3x5 card and carry them around with you. Read them often. It takes time, but replacing your negative beliefs will allow you to finally create the life you actually want. Who knows, maybe someday you will join the ranks of high school motivational speakers and share your message with young people!
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