By Dee Britton
Are you living the life that you truly desire? Is everything in your life going just the way you have always dreamed? Relationships? Wealth? Health? Career? Family? If not, then what are you doing about making the change and creating that awesome life that you were meant to live?
Creating Everlasting Change
In order to create real everlasting change in any area of your life you must be equipped with the right tools. One of the biggest problems in society today is that so many people say that they want to change and do nothing about it (except moan about their current situation). Or on the other hand they spend much time and effort gathering the tools required to change, yet never doing anything with them.
Renovating your life is just like renovating your house and it always needs constant up keep. If you are renovating your house you need to know what you want done. What room in the house needs an update, what trades you require, what equipment and tools you need and you need to know how you want the finished product to look. You can either decide to outsource the work or do it yourself. Creating a better life is just the same but many people do not invest in themselves like they invest in their homes.
Preparing Your Own Personal Tool Belt
If you have decided to do the renovating yourself it is like walking into Bunnings (a large hardware store) with an empty tool belt on. You walk in the door and you are overwhelmed. You go up and down all the different aisles and there are thousands of different tools that you could fill your tool belt with but you have only got so much room or so much capacity. You know that only the best tools, the most precise tools will ensure a fantastic renovation.
As you walk down the aisles at Bunnings and you think to yourself:
'Shit, where do I start?
'Which aisle do I go down?'
'What do I need to get this job done?'
You've got this big list of problems that you need to overcome and an even bigger list of the extra stuff that you want out of life. You need a store attendant in overalls or in a Bunnings apron (an expert in the field) to really guide you and show you how to get what you need and guide you to the specific tools that you need, so that you can just leave with all the right tools to get the job done right.
No two renovations are ever the same so the tools must be selected specifically for you.
How Much Do You Want The Change?
In order for the renovation to go ahead you must really want it to happen. You must be so sick and tired of just existing and you understand that there is so much potential, and the investment is worth it. You are aware that there will be a bit of upheaval going on and maybe some unexpected obstacles as the changes take place. But you understand that the finished product will be so much better than the current one.
The Tools Do Not Work All By Themselves
There is no use going out and getting the tools or employing the trades if you are not ready or really sure about what you want. How many renovations do you see half finished? Or do you know of people who have decided to make the change, have gone out and purchased the tools, only to have them sit in the shed collecting dust.
There are many resources available that will equip you with a full belt of tools so that you can feel fully prepared for the change. So, NOW is the time to really think about what type of renovations really need to be happening in your life. Not tomorrow, not next week, not next year, but NOW! Go out and get the necessary tools or trade experts and stop just thinking about it. Life is too short to live in a miserable old shack.
To health, happiness & living the life of YOUR dreams.
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Selasa, 23 Agustus 2011
Keep "Doing": Empowerment to Maintain Certain Societal Virtues
By Jennifer N Daniels
There is always something to fight for in our society, whether social, political, or environmental. Those of us that remain in the fight for a better society sometimes become weary. ("...let us not grow weary in well-doing, for in due season we shall reap, if we do not lose heart" Galatians 6:9 (RSV)). Sometimes it also seems that we are the only ones in the battle for good. On the contrary, there is a theory that may help; stemming from more obvious societal values, we glean hope!
In efforts to "reconcile our social world", John Rawls, political philosopher at Harvard University has reminded us of some necessary [political] virtues that can provide us initial encouragement.
We know that our fragmented society has always needed cooperation. And Rawls asserts that "fairness and tolerance and a willingness to meet others halfway" are the things that lend us to greater cooperation. What we are now empowered to do, in every corner of our lives, is actively pursue cooperation. And here is the reason to maintain an active pursuit: there are residual benefits that foot soldiers still in the fight may not see for ourselves and those surrounding us.
I am sure we can all think of other societal concepts that stress these precepts. What would our world look like if we all aspired to do these very things in our daily life? What type of society would we have if no one had this frame of mind?
Light at the Middle
If "a sufficient number" of us could find ourselves in a loving position like this, Rawls assures this 'hypothetical society' that "even if numerous citizens lapse on occasion," and become weary in well-doing, we can still maintain a cooperative healthy society and much more as it relates to a "realistic utopia". And this is because we pushed the persistence in the first place. Therefore, if we begin to push ourselves more to maintain purity, we can then take concessions for the times we are weak ourselves.
If you can picture each of us practicing these values -fairness, tolerance, and willingness to meet half-way -- we can significantly shape our societies foundation, one pillar at a time. We each become the basis and basic structure of our society, the face of modern times. Moreover, as we build the society up to the utopia that we have defined and hoped for in the back of our minds, we simultaneously engender a support system for ourselves when we are weak.
Always a Current
Now is the time, if ever before, to shape our nation and society as a whole, by principles that are essential to our foundation. We can sing "Kumbaya" for we have other principalities fighting for influence; but if we can finally come to a point in which many of our sectors stop discussing unity and begin to act on it, we will renew our strength. (There are many divisions in society that we could discuss, but I am sure you can think of some groups of your own.) Moreover, with faith in our hands, we will directly and indirectly hasten closer toward a "realistic utopia".
Although there is always a current pushing against our attempts at cooperation, now is the time. Now is the time for a movement, as the political tides of the United States are applying more pressure on the truth, while pushing its very essence out of consideration. Now is the time as we find increasing numbers of people turning to religion and relinquishing spirituality. Now is the time as we soldiers begin to lose heart while losing contact with others in the fight for what is 'well'. THIS is an important time! Do not faint! Understand your mutual relationship between yourself and your community and be empowered to value your action!
In efforts to "reconcile our social world", John Rawls, political philosopher at Harvard University has reminded us of some necessary [political] virtues that can provide us initial encouragement.
We know that our fragmented society has always needed cooperation. And Rawls asserts that "fairness and tolerance and a willingness to meet others halfway" are the things that lend us to greater cooperation. What we are now empowered to do, in every corner of our lives, is actively pursue cooperation. And here is the reason to maintain an active pursuit: there are residual benefits that foot soldiers still in the fight may not see for ourselves and those surrounding us.
I am sure we can all think of other societal concepts that stress these precepts. What would our world look like if we all aspired to do these very things in our daily life? What type of society would we have if no one had this frame of mind?
Light at the Middle
If "a sufficient number" of us could find ourselves in a loving position like this, Rawls assures this 'hypothetical society' that "even if numerous citizens lapse on occasion," and become weary in well-doing, we can still maintain a cooperative healthy society and much more as it relates to a "realistic utopia". And this is because we pushed the persistence in the first place. Therefore, if we begin to push ourselves more to maintain purity, we can then take concessions for the times we are weak ourselves.
If you can picture each of us practicing these values -fairness, tolerance, and willingness to meet half-way -- we can significantly shape our societies foundation, one pillar at a time. We each become the basis and basic structure of our society, the face of modern times. Moreover, as we build the society up to the utopia that we have defined and hoped for in the back of our minds, we simultaneously engender a support system for ourselves when we are weak.
Always a Current
Now is the time, if ever before, to shape our nation and society as a whole, by principles that are essential to our foundation. We can sing "Kumbaya" for we have other principalities fighting for influence; but if we can finally come to a point in which many of our sectors stop discussing unity and begin to act on it, we will renew our strength. (There are many divisions in society that we could discuss, but I am sure you can think of some groups of your own.) Moreover, with faith in our hands, we will directly and indirectly hasten closer toward a "realistic utopia".
Although there is always a current pushing against our attempts at cooperation, now is the time. Now is the time for a movement, as the political tides of the United States are applying more pressure on the truth, while pushing its very essence out of consideration. Now is the time as we find increasing numbers of people turning to religion and relinquishing spirituality. Now is the time as we soldiers begin to lose heart while losing contact with others in the fight for what is 'well'. THIS is an important time! Do not faint! Understand your mutual relationship between yourself and your community and be empowered to value your action!
Senin, 08 Agustus 2011
The 5th Universal Law: That of Intention or Attraction
By Nancy Stremmel
This is the most simple of the laws, once one has mastered the previous laws. When you have accepted that you are one with Source/Divinity/Creator, and you are engaged in moving energy by giving, and you are actively making karmic choices, you are ready to become an integral being.
The integral being practices acceptance of the moment, responsibility, and defenselessness. This is necessary before you can permanently enter the 4th dimension. The higher spiritual beings are just waiting for you to be ready. They will not let a person who is prone to explosive anger or blaming, fear or regret become a master manifestor because that person would be more likely to cause hurt as to be expansive, thus increasing peace and abundance.
This 5th law gives you the power to manifest love and beauty, peace and abundance, or if you are in opposition to Source, you can also manifest illness and war, distress and destruction. This is why those individuals who are oppositional will be kept largely in the lower frequency of the third dimension. But, as we see in the world today, they do sometimes rise to a level capable of manifesting and cause trouble for us all.
Your Choice is always between Fear and Love:
This law only gives one difficulty when it is taken out of context of the other laws. "Desire is part of your karmic software" says Deepak Chopra. "Intent is what puts into process that which we desire." Make your list based on your heart's atonement to the flow and surrender that list to the womb of creation. Believe, and it is done.
Every decision is between fear and love. Are you going to make that bill payment today? Love will encourage you to do it and fear will encourage you to wait. Are you going to make that phone call to your sister/brother/cousin? Love will encourage you to do it and fear will make you hesitate.
Do you love your work enough to turn off the TV and put in some extra time mastering your craft? Do you love you family enough to do the extra work around your home without complaining? Do you love your partner and your self enough to always tell the truth and to always honor your contracts? Do you love humanity enough to trust that people are basically good and doing the best they can in any given situation?
When you are able to let go of all fear, and embrace love in all circumstances, you will be able to manifest with such speed and accuracy that your manifesting might also be called a miracle. Until that time, you will be practicing your manifesting mastery as a doctor or a lawyer practices their profession.
The integral being practices acceptance of the moment, responsibility, and defenselessness. This is necessary before you can permanently enter the 4th dimension. The higher spiritual beings are just waiting for you to be ready. They will not let a person who is prone to explosive anger or blaming, fear or regret become a master manifestor because that person would be more likely to cause hurt as to be expansive, thus increasing peace and abundance.
This 5th law gives you the power to manifest love and beauty, peace and abundance, or if you are in opposition to Source, you can also manifest illness and war, distress and destruction. This is why those individuals who are oppositional will be kept largely in the lower frequency of the third dimension. But, as we see in the world today, they do sometimes rise to a level capable of manifesting and cause trouble for us all.
Your Choice is always between Fear and Love:
This law only gives one difficulty when it is taken out of context of the other laws. "Desire is part of your karmic software" says Deepak Chopra. "Intent is what puts into process that which we desire." Make your list based on your heart's atonement to the flow and surrender that list to the womb of creation. Believe, and it is done.
Every decision is between fear and love. Are you going to make that bill payment today? Love will encourage you to do it and fear will encourage you to wait. Are you going to make that phone call to your sister/brother/cousin? Love will encourage you to do it and fear will make you hesitate.
Do you love your work enough to turn off the TV and put in some extra time mastering your craft? Do you love you family enough to do the extra work around your home without complaining? Do you love your partner and your self enough to always tell the truth and to always honor your contracts? Do you love humanity enough to trust that people are basically good and doing the best they can in any given situation?
When you are able to let go of all fear, and embrace love in all circumstances, you will be able to manifest with such speed and accuracy that your manifesting might also be called a miracle. Until that time, you will be practicing your manifesting mastery as a doctor or a lawyer practices their profession.
Affirm the Will to Win
By Lance Winslow
Back in my younger days, I was a track star and there were other athletes who were genetically superior, had better builds, and clearly they should have won every race. But they didn't, and there was a great equalizer; Will! That's right, the will to win.
Anyone who has ever competed at the highest levels of competition realizes that you have to commit, you have to endure, and you have to push your limits. You can will your body to perform not only at optimum, but beyond its physical limits. Eventually what you learn is there are no such things as limits, except those limits you set for yourself.
It's easy to be in a competition and become intimidated, and back off. It's easy to get psyched out, or feel the presence of another athlete who is ultra-determined to beat you. The question is how strong are you in your mind? How much strength of character can you muster, to face your competitor, look them in the eyes, and not flinch? Can you bring yourself to know in advance that you will win?
The answer is yes, but it depends upon you, no one else can do this for you, and I am sure even if you hypnotize yourself, and tell yourself you are going to win, you will not be able to beat someone who truly believes in themselves, their abilities, and has committed themselves in their mind. Sometimes, I believe that human sporting competition brings out the best of the species.
Not only the strongest, and most fit, but those who are strong in the mind. Indeed, you'll need to have both, that is to say you will have to be in excellent shape, and learn the skills required to compete at the upper levels in whatever sport you choose, but you still must possess to strong will, and strength of character if you are going to be victorious time and time again. You must affirm your destiny.
Now then, it's a lot easier to watch someone else compete then actually have to go through the process yourself. Most of the top athletes make it look so easy, when they've had to endure so much to get to that upper-level. Some of them have beaten their bodies into oblivion, and got up, time and time again, and persevered through the pain and agony of defeat along the way. Still, they affirmed to never give up.
Sometimes, I wish that we could see strength of character and will in others, yes sometimes you can feel it, sense it, but wouldn't it be nice if they had a certain aura or glow around them based on their level of will and intensity, showing the strength of their affirmations coming in to fruition. Of course, it takes one to know one, and if you develop that level of strength inside, you will easily recognize it and others. Indeed, I hope you will please consider all these philosophical thoughts on sports competition and think on it. I want you to win, affirm it, be that winner.
Anyone who has ever competed at the highest levels of competition realizes that you have to commit, you have to endure, and you have to push your limits. You can will your body to perform not only at optimum, but beyond its physical limits. Eventually what you learn is there are no such things as limits, except those limits you set for yourself.
It's easy to be in a competition and become intimidated, and back off. It's easy to get psyched out, or feel the presence of another athlete who is ultra-determined to beat you. The question is how strong are you in your mind? How much strength of character can you muster, to face your competitor, look them in the eyes, and not flinch? Can you bring yourself to know in advance that you will win?
The answer is yes, but it depends upon you, no one else can do this for you, and I am sure even if you hypnotize yourself, and tell yourself you are going to win, you will not be able to beat someone who truly believes in themselves, their abilities, and has committed themselves in their mind. Sometimes, I believe that human sporting competition brings out the best of the species.
Not only the strongest, and most fit, but those who are strong in the mind. Indeed, you'll need to have both, that is to say you will have to be in excellent shape, and learn the skills required to compete at the upper levels in whatever sport you choose, but you still must possess to strong will, and strength of character if you are going to be victorious time and time again. You must affirm your destiny.
Now then, it's a lot easier to watch someone else compete then actually have to go through the process yourself. Most of the top athletes make it look so easy, when they've had to endure so much to get to that upper-level. Some of them have beaten their bodies into oblivion, and got up, time and time again, and persevered through the pain and agony of defeat along the way. Still, they affirmed to never give up.
Sometimes, I wish that we could see strength of character and will in others, yes sometimes you can feel it, sense it, but wouldn't it be nice if they had a certain aura or glow around them based on their level of will and intensity, showing the strength of their affirmations coming in to fruition. Of course, it takes one to know one, and if you develop that level of strength inside, you will easily recognize it and others. Indeed, I hope you will please consider all these philosophical thoughts on sports competition and think on it. I want you to win, affirm it, be that winner.
Yield No Yards
By Lance Winslow
Sometimes you have to hold your ground, as sometimes that makes sense. You see, sometimes you must yield no yards, and if you fail to do so, you lose, along with the rest of your team. Okay so, let's talk a little bit about life's lessons and a little philosophy on that if you will.
Now then, President Obama says everything is negotiable, and I know a few lawyers who'd have you believing the same as well, but sometimes there are some things which should not be negotiable. You see, if you believe that everything is always negotiable, you're also likely to fall for anything. Perhaps it's a lot like that country song; "you have to stand for something, or you'll fall for anything." There is a lot of truth to that, you have to admit.
Okay so, if you stand for something, then chances are you stand against something else. If you stand against too many things, you're liable to make yourself a target, and prevent forward advancement in human society, especially in this day and age of political correctness. At some point in your life you will come to a place where you will have to defend what you are about be it your family, your business in the marketplace, your political views, or your integrity.
When you reach that point you will have some decisions to make, you can either dig in, or yield. If you plan on taking it and holding your ground, you better be ready for the onslaught. Indeed, the football analogy is a good one here, and I'm sure Vince Lombardi would agree. And, I'm sure he also at one time or another uttered those words; "You Will Yield No Yards!" - and if he said it, he meant it.
It is much easier to hold your ground when you have a solid team that you can believe in, where each teammate believes in the same. Yes, there is strength in numbers, and there is safety in conviction, and belief, and in those who will affirm their commitments, dedication, perseverance, and personal strength of character and will to absolutely, positively, never yield those yards. There have been sports stories, political stories, and war stories around this very topic.
There are few times in life where a man's true character can be judged. But the strength of that individual, and their mental will at the point where they make a stand will determine the worth of that man. I wish you well, and I hope that you will understand that sometimes you must not yield any yards, you must stand your ground against any adversity, any competitor, and any evil doer on this side or the other.
Now then, President Obama says everything is negotiable, and I know a few lawyers who'd have you believing the same as well, but sometimes there are some things which should not be negotiable. You see, if you believe that everything is always negotiable, you're also likely to fall for anything. Perhaps it's a lot like that country song; "you have to stand for something, or you'll fall for anything." There is a lot of truth to that, you have to admit.
Okay so, if you stand for something, then chances are you stand against something else. If you stand against too many things, you're liable to make yourself a target, and prevent forward advancement in human society, especially in this day and age of political correctness. At some point in your life you will come to a place where you will have to defend what you are about be it your family, your business in the marketplace, your political views, or your integrity.
When you reach that point you will have some decisions to make, you can either dig in, or yield. If you plan on taking it and holding your ground, you better be ready for the onslaught. Indeed, the football analogy is a good one here, and I'm sure Vince Lombardi would agree. And, I'm sure he also at one time or another uttered those words; "You Will Yield No Yards!" - and if he said it, he meant it.
It is much easier to hold your ground when you have a solid team that you can believe in, where each teammate believes in the same. Yes, there is strength in numbers, and there is safety in conviction, and belief, and in those who will affirm their commitments, dedication, perseverance, and personal strength of character and will to absolutely, positively, never yield those yards. There have been sports stories, political stories, and war stories around this very topic.
There are few times in life where a man's true character can be judged. But the strength of that individual, and their mental will at the point where they make a stand will determine the worth of that man. I wish you well, and I hope that you will understand that sometimes you must not yield any yards, you must stand your ground against any adversity, any competitor, and any evil doer on this side or the other.
Minggu, 07 Agustus 2011
Understanding Yourself - Steps to Understanding and Accepting Who You Are
By Bev A Robinson
Sometimes we lack a realistic view and understanding of ourselves which can lead to feelings of being "lost" in our lives and depression. Understanding yourself helps you to accept yourself the way you are, and in turn, makes you a happier person. You cannot control everything in life, but if you understand yourself and make good choices based on who you really are and knowing what you want out of life, you can definitely begin to enjoy life to the fullest.
Here are a few steps to start you on the road of understanding yourself:
Step 1: Accept that you are unique and valuable in your own special way, just as you are. We all matter to our close friends and family. You are very important both for yourself and to others.
Step 2: Now you need to dig deep to understand the real YOU, without any pretenses. Set time aside to do this exercise. Explore the way you really feel about yourself, you can start with answering a few questions like:
What are the fears and beliefs that are holding you back?
Are you living your life or are you just existing from day to day?
What makes you truly happy?
What are the things that you know you can do well?
What is your self talk? Negative? Positive?
Do you treat yourself and others with respect?
Do you take responsibility for your life or do you feel like a victim of your circumstances?
What do you want out of life?
In understanding yourself as much as you can, you start to gain confidence in your strengths and you will also recognize your weaknesses. Rather than shying away from your flaws, you could help yourself better by accepting them and working on them. Build an honest picture of who you truly are. Maybe you can ask close friends and family members, whose opinions you respect, to give you honest feedback on their perception of you and how you interact with them and respond to situations.
Step 3: Once you understand yourself, you can always work to better yourself, but it should be because of what you want to achieve in life and what you expect from yourself, not because you believe it to be what others want from, or expect from you. Remember there is no reason for you change who you are, unless you feel it will be beneficial to you and move you in the direction of the way you ultimately want to live your life.
Understanding yourself means being comfortable with who you are and what you are. It also helps you realize your strengths and weaknesses so you can accept and embrace yourself - warts and all.
Sometimes we lack a realistic view and understanding of ourselves which can lead to feelings of being "lost" in our lives and depression. Understanding yourself helps you to accept yourself the way you are, and in turn, makes you a happier person. You cannot control everything in life, but if you understand yourself and make good choices based on who you really are and knowing what you want out of life, you can definitely begin to enjoy life to the fullest.
Here are a few steps to start you on the road of understanding yourself:
Step 1: Accept that you are unique and valuable in your own special way, just as you are. We all matter to our close friends and family. You are very important both for yourself and to others.
Step 2: Now you need to dig deep to understand the real YOU, without any pretenses. Set time aside to do this exercise. Explore the way you really feel about yourself, you can start with answering a few questions like:
What are the fears and beliefs that are holding you back?
Are you living your life or are you just existing from day to day?
What makes you truly happy?
What are the things that you know you can do well?
What is your self talk? Negative? Positive?
Do you treat yourself and others with respect?
Do you take responsibility for your life or do you feel like a victim of your circumstances?
What do you want out of life?
In understanding yourself as much as you can, you start to gain confidence in your strengths and you will also recognize your weaknesses. Rather than shying away from your flaws, you could help yourself better by accepting them and working on them. Build an honest picture of who you truly are. Maybe you can ask close friends and family members, whose opinions you respect, to give you honest feedback on their perception of you and how you interact with them and respond to situations.
Step 3: Once you understand yourself, you can always work to better yourself, but it should be because of what you want to achieve in life and what you expect from yourself, not because you believe it to be what others want from, or expect from you. Remember there is no reason for you change who you are, unless you feel it will be beneficial to you and move you in the direction of the way you ultimately want to live your life.
Understanding yourself means being comfortable with who you are and what you are. It also helps you realize your strengths and weaknesses so you can accept and embrace yourself - warts and all.
Jumat, 29 Juli 2011
Can You Get Rich Just by Reading a Book?
By David H Wise
I personally know people who got rich and started out from zero. Reading books about getting financially independent had helped them a lot. But you won't get rich just by reading a book (unless you win the lottery or something). I think that there are 3 golden rules to follow, if you want to make it to the top.
Rule #1: define your goals, make a plan and take action
Did you know that the majority of people, who buy book, just read the first pages and then put the book away on their bookshelves? It sounds illogical, but that's the truth. Where did the motivation go? Or was there even a motivation?
You want to get rich? Why? Unfortunately most people, who would like to earn more money, they do not know why.
These books are just the tools, which can help you to achieve your goals. But first you have to know how much money do you want to earn and why do you need that amount. This is the very first step to take. And all financial experts agree on this.
Once you defined your goals, you have to make a plan and take action. This is where these books can help you a lot. Follow the instructions exactly as they say, and you will have less trouble as you normally would have.
Don't just read! Act! You won't get rich just by reading a book. You have to action.
Rule #2: be persistent
The problem with getting rich is that you have to do a lot of work as you start out. And most people will quit. Getting rich is not for the lazy people. I think that Tony Robbins used to say, that "what people are capable of is unbelievable and what they are actually do accomplish is disappointing".
The difference between those, who make it and those, who do not, is persistence. The winners win by not giving up. Remember Thomas Edison? He made one thousand attempts, before he invented the light ball. He persisted and succeeded. He was winner.
You win by achieving your goals. Those, who wrote these books, had done the same thing.
Rule #3: read the right books
I think that there are thousands of books out there about getting rich. Go visit Amazon and you'll see what I mean. With so many experts in this area, how can someone tell which of these books are worth reading it?
The answer is actually very simple: read what is working. Here is what I mean by that: read books written by people who already succeeded in their financial life or read books recommended by people you know, who already succeeded financially too. What better proof can you have, than living examples?
I personally know people who got rich and started out from zero. Reading books about getting financially independent had helped them a lot. But you won't get rich just by reading a book (unless you win the lottery or something). I think that there are 3 golden rules to follow, if you want to make it to the top.
Rule #1: define your goals, make a plan and take action
Did you know that the majority of people, who buy book, just read the first pages and then put the book away on their bookshelves? It sounds illogical, but that's the truth. Where did the motivation go? Or was there even a motivation?
You want to get rich? Why? Unfortunately most people, who would like to earn more money, they do not know why.
These books are just the tools, which can help you to achieve your goals. But first you have to know how much money do you want to earn and why do you need that amount. This is the very first step to take. And all financial experts agree on this.
Once you defined your goals, you have to make a plan and take action. This is where these books can help you a lot. Follow the instructions exactly as they say, and you will have less trouble as you normally would have.
Don't just read! Act! You won't get rich just by reading a book. You have to action.
Rule #2: be persistent
The problem with getting rich is that you have to do a lot of work as you start out. And most people will quit. Getting rich is not for the lazy people. I think that Tony Robbins used to say, that "what people are capable of is unbelievable and what they are actually do accomplish is disappointing".
The difference between those, who make it and those, who do not, is persistence. The winners win by not giving up. Remember Thomas Edison? He made one thousand attempts, before he invented the light ball. He persisted and succeeded. He was winner.
You win by achieving your goals. Those, who wrote these books, had done the same thing.
Rule #3: read the right books
I think that there are thousands of books out there about getting rich. Go visit Amazon and you'll see what I mean. With so many experts in this area, how can someone tell which of these books are worth reading it?
The answer is actually very simple: read what is working. Here is what I mean by that: read books written by people who already succeeded in their financial life or read books recommended by people you know, who already succeeded financially too. What better proof can you have, than living examples?
Three Things Most People Do Wrong When Trying to Release Emotions
By Dr Lisa Turner
Emotions are good. They let us know when something isn't right for us. At least that's what they are meant for.
However all too often the emotion you feel now in the present is actually based in a memory from the past. When this happens it means you can't make the best decisions for yourself. You will find it hard to be 100% present and in the now, because the past is always pulling you back.
Sadly exactly how to recover from the past isn't well known and here are the 3 biggest mistakes that people make when trying to deal with their emotions.
1. Understand them
Do you know someone who knows exactly WHY they have their problems? They know the cause, the events that led to them, how it all happened. They will know and fully understand all the patterns and triggers, and often they will find every opportunity to share them with anyone who seems even remotely interested, they will launch into their "story". The problem is they still have the problem. Knowing why you have the problem and understanding it is a bit like knowing your car doesn't work because its fan belt has broken, but not actually replacing the fan belt.
2. Express them
Many therapies focus on crying, talking about your problem or even shouting and screaming.
Crying does not release the emotions, nor does it resolve the problem. Although crying can give temporary relief and release endorphins, this simply masks the problem and, in fact, reliving the painful event reinforces the problem and makes it worse, rather than better.
Rather than releasing the emotions this actually reinforces them in your neurology. Every time you think a thought, feel an emotion or recall a memory, the neurons fire in your brain along the same original path. Each time you do this you will actually be strengthening that path, making it easier for that pathway to be fired up next time. This is why small events in the present can trigger past trauma. Expressing emotions does not release them.
Therefore each time you relive a traumatic event, you will strengthen the neural pathway. But if you RELEASE the negative emotions new, positive and empowering thought processes can then be installed.
3. Suppress them
This is also called denial and we do this in a variety of ways. Most people will simply kid themselves or deny that they have any problems at all. Often emotions are suppressed or anaesthetised out of consciousness with addictions. Smoking, drinking, video games, TV, eating too much or a compulsion to eat a particular thing, even caffeine will anaesthetise your pain.
However, the pain and the problems are still there. The neurons are still firing, but out of your conscious awareness. So you are radiating out all that energy completely ignorantly until boom some big problem lands in your life and you can't understand where it came from or why it happened when you were thinking happy thoughts.
Telltale signs that you have suppressed emotions
A) Overreactions
You overreact to small things - this is known as emotional leakage. The emotions, denied in one area of your life, literally spill out in other areas. So if you are irritable, overly sentimental, get hurt by small things, even road rage, are signs that you could be suppressing emotions in another area.
B) Low or no Energy
Feeling tired - it takes energy to carry emotions (that's why it's called emotional baggage) and it takes even more energy to suppress them. If you are lacking in energy, need more sleep than most people or just have no get up and go. Many of my past clients were suffering from chronic fatigue or ME, which disappeared once they released their emotions.
C) You have physical pain or even illness
I've received a lot of questions about illness, heart problems, chronic fatigue, auto-immune, chronic pain and so on.
Pain, illness or physical discomfort is one of the ways our unconscious minds communicate with us. Your unconscious mind is communicating with your conscious mind all the time, but in the highly logical, rational, left brain society we have been conditioned to ignore those silly irrational feelings and only to pay attention to rational thinking.
But no matter how irrational they might seem they do have a rational cause. It's just that our conscious / logical mind doesn't have all the information. So it assumes the unconscious mind is wrong and overrules it.
This is what happens with our emotions and illness. Our unconscious mind will tell our conscious mind that something needs to change or move or it will just give us some feedback. But our conscious mind ignores it, so our unconscious mind gives it louder and louder and we turn it off and become numb to our emotions.
The problem is still there so our unconscious mind tries another way of communicating. The unconscious mind runs the body and it governs all those automatic processed like our immune system and muscles etc.
So if we ignore our emotions our unconscious mind gives us the messages as pain or illness. But when we pay attention to the emotions and release them the physical problem can disappear.
This is particularly true of all those psychosomatic illnesses. That doesn't mean they are not real. The pain and the problem is VERY real, but it is caused because we don't have a mechanism to release our emotions so we suppress them.
However all too often the emotion you feel now in the present is actually based in a memory from the past. When this happens it means you can't make the best decisions for yourself. You will find it hard to be 100% present and in the now, because the past is always pulling you back.
Sadly exactly how to recover from the past isn't well known and here are the 3 biggest mistakes that people make when trying to deal with their emotions.
1. Understand them
Do you know someone who knows exactly WHY they have their problems? They know the cause, the events that led to them, how it all happened. They will know and fully understand all the patterns and triggers, and often they will find every opportunity to share them with anyone who seems even remotely interested, they will launch into their "story". The problem is they still have the problem. Knowing why you have the problem and understanding it is a bit like knowing your car doesn't work because its fan belt has broken, but not actually replacing the fan belt.
2. Express them
Many therapies focus on crying, talking about your problem or even shouting and screaming.
Crying does not release the emotions, nor does it resolve the problem. Although crying can give temporary relief and release endorphins, this simply masks the problem and, in fact, reliving the painful event reinforces the problem and makes it worse, rather than better.
Rather than releasing the emotions this actually reinforces them in your neurology. Every time you think a thought, feel an emotion or recall a memory, the neurons fire in your brain along the same original path. Each time you do this you will actually be strengthening that path, making it easier for that pathway to be fired up next time. This is why small events in the present can trigger past trauma. Expressing emotions does not release them.
Therefore each time you relive a traumatic event, you will strengthen the neural pathway. But if you RELEASE the negative emotions new, positive and empowering thought processes can then be installed.
3. Suppress them
This is also called denial and we do this in a variety of ways. Most people will simply kid themselves or deny that they have any problems at all. Often emotions are suppressed or anaesthetised out of consciousness with addictions. Smoking, drinking, video games, TV, eating too much or a compulsion to eat a particular thing, even caffeine will anaesthetise your pain.
However, the pain and the problems are still there. The neurons are still firing, but out of your conscious awareness. So you are radiating out all that energy completely ignorantly until boom some big problem lands in your life and you can't understand where it came from or why it happened when you were thinking happy thoughts.
Telltale signs that you have suppressed emotions
A) Overreactions
You overreact to small things - this is known as emotional leakage. The emotions, denied in one area of your life, literally spill out in other areas. So if you are irritable, overly sentimental, get hurt by small things, even road rage, are signs that you could be suppressing emotions in another area.
B) Low or no Energy
Feeling tired - it takes energy to carry emotions (that's why it's called emotional baggage) and it takes even more energy to suppress them. If you are lacking in energy, need more sleep than most people or just have no get up and go. Many of my past clients were suffering from chronic fatigue or ME, which disappeared once they released their emotions.
C) You have physical pain or even illness
I've received a lot of questions about illness, heart problems, chronic fatigue, auto-immune, chronic pain and so on.
Pain, illness or physical discomfort is one of the ways our unconscious minds communicate with us. Your unconscious mind is communicating with your conscious mind all the time, but in the highly logical, rational, left brain society we have been conditioned to ignore those silly irrational feelings and only to pay attention to rational thinking.
But no matter how irrational they might seem they do have a rational cause. It's just that our conscious / logical mind doesn't have all the information. So it assumes the unconscious mind is wrong and overrules it.
This is what happens with our emotions and illness. Our unconscious mind will tell our conscious mind that something needs to change or move or it will just give us some feedback. But our conscious mind ignores it, so our unconscious mind gives it louder and louder and we turn it off and become numb to our emotions.
The problem is still there so our unconscious mind tries another way of communicating. The unconscious mind runs the body and it governs all those automatic processed like our immune system and muscles etc.
So if we ignore our emotions our unconscious mind gives us the messages as pain or illness. But when we pay attention to the emotions and release them the physical problem can disappear.
This is particularly true of all those psychosomatic illnesses. That doesn't mean they are not real. The pain and the problem is VERY real, but it is caused because we don't have a mechanism to release our emotions so we suppress them.
Anger Management Classes Don't Have to Be Embarrassing
By Ari Novick, Ph.D
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/6455837
Anger Management classes don't have to be embarrassing. More than every anger management classes have become the treatment of choice for those wanting to improve or sharpen their relationship skills. Unlike couples counseling, anger management classes are educational. They are aimed at teaching participants some very specific and concrete skills for improving interpersonal interactions.
As a licensed psychotherapist, I see many couples, and there certainly is a value in addressing relationship issues in counseling. Anger control; however, is laser focused on teaching skills that anyone can use right away. Regardless of whether your in a relationship, anger management skills will help in a variety of life settings including, work, school, family, driving, and day to day interactions with others.
Participants will learn a myriad of new tools including assertive communication, empathy and emotional intelligence, forgiveness, stress management, expectation management, improving judgement and impulse control and much more.
Anger control classes aren't an embarrassment because it is simply a class. And most quality programs are not just catering to the court ordered anger programs, but also for those seeking to gain skills for personal growth and improvement.
How nice would be it be to handle yourself better when you get upset? Wouldn't you like to walk away from a situation and feel proud of yourself for how you handled it? Imagine what your family and friends would say and think when they see the "new" you standing cool under pressure. No need to wait. You can even start taking anger management classes online!
For example, here is a sample content description of what is covered in just one chapter of an online class:
As a licensed psychotherapist, I see many couples, and there certainly is a value in addressing relationship issues in counseling. Anger control; however, is laser focused on teaching skills that anyone can use right away. Regardless of whether your in a relationship, anger management skills will help in a variety of life settings including, work, school, family, driving, and day to day interactions with others.
Participants will learn a myriad of new tools including assertive communication, empathy and emotional intelligence, forgiveness, stress management, expectation management, improving judgement and impulse control and much more.
Anger control classes aren't an embarrassment because it is simply a class. And most quality programs are not just catering to the court ordered anger programs, but also for those seeking to gain skills for personal growth and improvement.
How nice would be it be to handle yourself better when you get upset? Wouldn't you like to walk away from a situation and feel proud of yourself for how you handled it? Imagine what your family and friends would say and think when they see the "new" you standing cool under pressure. No need to wait. You can even start taking anger management classes online!
For example, here is a sample content description of what is covered in just one chapter of an online class:
- Tool #5 - Assertive Communication
- Harmful Pattern #1 - Avoidance
- Harmful Pattern #2 - Criticism
- Harmful Pattern #3 - Passive-Aggressive
- Harmful Pattern #4 - Aggression
- Harmful Pattern #5 - Defensiveness
- Harmful Pattern #6 - Contempt
- The Assertive Communicator
- Send Clear Messages
- Learn How To Listen
- Complain with "Magical Formula"
- Acknowledge Your Part in Conflicts
- Conflict Resolution Approaches
- Useful Things To Say
- Give and Take Praise
- Express Feelings Openly
Ari Novick, Ph.D. is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Dr. Novick is also an adjunct professor of psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/6455837
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