Anger can come from many sources. It may be righteous anger, either for yourself or for others. It may be guilt related anger. Sometimes stress causes it, and fear as well. The question is, how do you deal with it, and is it right for you to do something about it?
Righteous Anger: Has someone said something slanderous about you? Perhaps they told their boss or spread it around your workplace, school or the internet. You've got two choices. One is to act out your anger and the other is to let it pass. Acting in anger, even if it's righteous anger, does no one any good. If you're the target, then it especially does you no good. Before you react, calm down, look at it rationally and then decide how you're going to handle the problem.
The same advice holds true if it is because of something done to someone else. Anger begets anger. You can let it spur you to action, but not while you're still feeling the emotion.
Guilt: This is a sneaky one. The more true an accusation is, the angrier you will become. It's a reflex to shield the mind from the realization that you've done something wrong. It will take a lot of self control to swallow it, think about what's being said and then do the right thing, whether it's an apology or some other means of restitution.
Stress: Stress causes a lot of emotions, and anger is only one of them. If you are under a lot of stress, you may need to learn some relaxation techniques to help control them. Visualization is the best if you have the time. If not, deep breathing and counting to ten do actually help. Herbs such as lavender and passionflower could be beneficial, but not when you may need your wits about you.
Fear: In some cases, anger caused by fear may save your life. In others, it may cause lasting harm. It can give you that added push to get out of the way of something, which is good. However, it can also cloud your judgement, make any illness worse and if you open mouth and insert foot, it could ruin relationships.
It is a good idea to talk to your doctor if you have anger issues that aren't resolved by the simple steps above. You may have an underlying medical condition and you may need counseling. The counselor can help you learn stronger techniques to hold anger at bay.
Righteous Anger: Has someone said something slanderous about you? Perhaps they told their boss or spread it around your workplace, school or the internet. You've got two choices. One is to act out your anger and the other is to let it pass. Acting in anger, even if it's righteous anger, does no one any good. If you're the target, then it especially does you no good. Before you react, calm down, look at it rationally and then decide how you're going to handle the problem.
The same advice holds true if it is because of something done to someone else. Anger begets anger. You can let it spur you to action, but not while you're still feeling the emotion.
Guilt: This is a sneaky one. The more true an accusation is, the angrier you will become. It's a reflex to shield the mind from the realization that you've done something wrong. It will take a lot of self control to swallow it, think about what's being said and then do the right thing, whether it's an apology or some other means of restitution.
Stress: Stress causes a lot of emotions, and anger is only one of them. If you are under a lot of stress, you may need to learn some relaxation techniques to help control them. Visualization is the best if you have the time. If not, deep breathing and counting to ten do actually help. Herbs such as lavender and passionflower could be beneficial, but not when you may need your wits about you.
Fear: In some cases, anger caused by fear may save your life. In others, it may cause lasting harm. It can give you that added push to get out of the way of something, which is good. However, it can also cloud your judgement, make any illness worse and if you open mouth and insert foot, it could ruin relationships.
It is a good idea to talk to your doctor if you have anger issues that aren't resolved by the simple steps above. You may have an underlying medical condition and you may need counseling. The counselor can help you learn stronger techniques to hold anger at bay.
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